I don’t remember where, or what though we exchanged a few emails and in one of his emails out to people he had written this.

Something about it touched me and I asked him if I could re-post it to my website on Maheono.com for others to read.

Tom recently passed away and so I’ve re-posted this here as a tribute to a great man with great oratory skills and down to earth practicatlity

I urge you also to visit tomhoobyar.com where his daughter Tracy has now taken the banner and read his and now her work that is inspiring and just down right – natural.

Rob

In Tribute to Tom Hoobyar

1. YOU ARE THE CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE; STAY THERE.

As a young sailor I learned that when you’re in a strange town, you take your corners wide and keep your hands out of your pockets. In other words, you need to stay balanced, alert and ready to react to surprises. Come to think of it, that’s a pretty good rule in ANY unfamiliar situation. Keep your balance and stay centred.

Human beliefs about reality are either arbitrary or accidental. Choose to be arbitrary when possible. It’s wise to choose beliefs that support health and happiness, so, whether or not things happen for a reason, I choose to believe that they do. It consoles me and makes me more resilient in dealing with life’s inevitable ups and downs.

There’s a reason why every spiritual tradition in history urges prayer and meditation — it’s an antidote to the confusions of life. Protect your personal boundaries and respect those of others. Pay attention to where you stop and others begin. Stay centred.

2. YOU EXPERIENCE LIFE PRETTY MUCH THE SAME AS EVERYONE ELSE.

This was told to me by a Bishop on a first class flight and a prostitute in Athens, years apart, and it’s true. We all have aches and pains, loves and fears. We breathe the same air, sit in the same traffic, see the same television, and walk the same earth. Although we’re fed a lot of junk about our differences, people everywhere have MUCH more in common than they have differences. If you focus on our commonalities, you’ll be more at ease and get along better with everyone.

3. YOUR ACTIONS ARE IN SERVICE OF FEAR OR LOVE. YOU CHOOSE.

Our actions are driven by either fear or love. Fear of consequences, real or imagined, accounts for a lot of human progress, and a WHOLE lot of human tragedy. Love on the other hand, drives us to invent, to create, to grow and to give. Think about which quality you want governing YOUR life.

4. NOBODY WAKES UP WANTING TO BE THE VILLAIN OF THE STORY.

Everybody is the “good guy” to themselves. Everyone is the star of their own movie and has reasons for what they do, even if it sucks, or doesn’t work, or is downright evil. So don’t waste time complaining about them — figure out how to manage, tolerate or avoid them.

5. “NOBODY DOES NUTTIN’.”

This means that most people are so distracted and disorganized that they only attend to the most essential, critical or familiar things in their lives. They are on “auto-pilot” most of the time — and are you so sure you’re not?

Your priorities are not theirs, so don’t take it personally when you’re overlooked, un-thanked and your call is not returned. Everyone listens to their favorite internal radio station — W.I.I.F.M. — standing for, “What’s In It For Me?” Self-interest is natural and healthy, and you can use this understanding to pilot yourself in and around other’s desires. Selfishness carried to an extreme, however, is a vice with a terrible price.

6. MOST PEOPLE ARE WORRIED THAT THEY’RE “UNZIPPED”.

Are you self-conscious? Most people are. They’re walking around, worried that people may notice their missing button, their bad hairdo, their poor credit, and their general shortcomings. And they will appreciate the person who makes it clear, in word and deed, that they’re just fine as they are. Nobody’s perfect. The biggest pretenders are the most insecure inside.

7. YOU MAKE YOUR HABITS — AND THEN YOUR HABITS MAKE YOU.

The biggest and most important influences in your life are created by little daily acts. Floss, save, exercise, meditate, say thank you, smile. Doing the right little thing at the right time can make more difference than a grand gesture performed too late. The most important qualities in life are managed by these regular acts done on a daily basis — spirituality, health, wealth, relationships, and the building of your personal character. All are created by daily habits — not some dramatic one-time gesture.

8. THERE IS A HELL — AND IT STARTS EARLY.

People map out their own personal Hell with moral shortcuts, regrets about lost opportunities, resentment and guilt. Then they add jealousy and envy, and they’ve entered Hell’s suburbs and are starting to lose all joy in life. Those who avoid doing anything that requires effort — physical exercise or forgiving or doing something for someone else — grow more narrow and less flexible day by day.

By the time they get to “downtown” Hell they’ve got a pretty bad attitude about almost everything, it seems like the world doesn’t love them. And they’re right — it doesn’t, because they’re toxic to be around . Pretty soon their immune system gets the message and their afflictions begin — their relationships are desolate and life becomes a drag. When they look ahead, their future looks just like their past. On and on. And that is Hell.

9. THERE IS A HEAVEN, AND HERE’S HOW TO CREATE IT.

When you choose this approach your life turns Heavenly, bit by bit. It doesn’t take much, just some daily attention. You invest in good memories, by choosing your daily behaviors so that you can enjoy looking back on your life.

You create your Heaven by small acts of generosity to others, making them smile and feel better. You create it by little acts of courage — doing the right thing when no one but you will ever know you did it. That brings self respect. You create it by telling the truth, even if it’s inconvenient or embarrassing. That brings credibility and trust. And makes you careful about what you do, or what you commit to doing.

You know you’re in Heaven’s neighbourhood when you notice the amazing number of things in life there are to be grateful for, even if your thanks are silent and private.

You build Heaven by stretching sometimes, to try something new or a little scary, and learning that you are more flexible than you thought. Humans are the most flexible beings on this planet, and it feels good when you fulfil your nature.

Then as you age, Heaven becomes a bigger influence in your life and on those around you. Your life expands even as your physical abilities contract. You laugh a lot, and enjoy more contentment and peace than you ever thought possible.

10. IT’S NEVER TOO LATE. YOU JUST NEED TO DECIDE!

You can turn your life around in a moment by simply deciding to make it better. You can learn something life-changing at any time and begin changing your life immediately.

Experience comes in moments — and the moments will keep coming for you until they finally stop. How do you want your next moments to be? It’s up to you.

Each moment is a gift and the chance to make a different choice comes to you each second. So choose, and let your life become a celebration.

Seeya,

Tom Hoobyar

Planning Director, NLP Comprehensive

(Excerpted from “Friendly Persuasion” and “The Wizard Behind The Curtain”, by Tom Hoobyar, Coming in 2006/7)

© 2001, 2006 Tom Hoobyar

Article re-printed courtesy of Tom Hoobyar (Thank you )

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Rob

I parked my car in the empty space provided by the absence of my parents car (we have a shared driveway and live nextdoor)

Sitting down, my wife told me about her day; she was unable to get her hair cut because her hairdresser had called to say she couldn’t make it.

While in the kitchen that overlooks the lounge I heard this -

“Your mums been rushed to hospital, they’ve opened a bed for her, her test results came back, she has cancer of the stomach”

Backstory

7 years ago my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have extensive surgery. My father has parkinsons disease and is now getting dementia.

I felt sick to the core

My head span and my stomach pitted itself into a knot. Flashing before my eyes I saw my mother in a hospital and thought she wasn’t going to make it this time. It would be quick and my father would have to be taken care of.

“Does Ian know or Chris?” I asked Zarn. (they’re my two brothers)

“What was that?”

“Does Ian or Chris know? “Who’s told them?”

“What are you on about?”

“Does Ian or Chris know mum’s been taken into hospital?”

Then it struck and left me shaken

“No not you’re mum, the hairdressers!”

Fxxk….I spent the next 10 minutes re-orienting back to a different reality.

How to avoid it happening again

I’d had my Cuban Missile Crisis and this is how to avoid the same mistake.

When you hear something that causes you to spin:

1) Repeat back what you’ve heard – clearly

2) Watch the response from the other person – did they agree with what you’ve repeated back (ie head nod) or do they look confused

3) If they agreed with what you’ve repeated back – get more detail.

4) If they look confused, ask them to repeat what they said back to you more clearly.

5) Take it from there.

The mis-heard statement

I had taken in one fact in the equation – my parents car was not present -  and linked this to the second part of the equation with the word  “Your mother…” from “(name of the hairdressers) mother…”

and put fact with mishearing to arrive at conclusion

Fact + Mishearing = Conclusion

For our Hairdresser

Our hearts go out to you both in this time of need.

Keeping Strong

No matter what we do in life, we cannot avoid what it will bring. It’s how we deal with them in the moment and keep our head and heart strong.

Rob Ballentine

Last night, I felt sluggish, tired and a bit down.

I’d spend the last 3 weeks madly getting our new site up. 12 hour days, 7 days a week in front of a PC, square eyes, stiff back…exhausted.

Last night was going to be just another night of tired, irritable sleep….but it wasn’t

When I went to bed my face was tense, screwed up like I’d eaten a lemon and I must have looked like a punchbag’.

I refused to wake up tired, miserable and exhausted again so where’s what I did, and here’s what you can do to wake up refreshed, alive and having had a good nights sleep

—————————

I lay there a few moments and let every muscle relax in my face. No tensing and letting go, just letting go.

Ahh.. this felt much better.

I then looked inside and noticed…”Why I’m not feeling too great either, A bit under the weather’

Mmmm that gave me an idea.

The weather

I love the sun, I feel great, alive and happy with it.

But I wasn’t last night.

What if…

So I lay there and imagined the sun rising from the centre of my head, slowly changing and only as quickly or as slowly as need be for the gentle colour and feelings to wash outward, down from inside to out, as well as the feelings I have of when I’m in the sun and feel SO alive and happy.

The trick here, was not to force it, but to let it be gentle and move only at the pace where, if there was resistance it would wash through it rather than try to force a change in state.

Boy…Did I just feel GREAT. I mean REALLY good.

…………

I didn’t even notice that voyage of slipping to sleep. Only that I woke some time later in the morning, very refreshed alert and happy inside.

Now today…I feel the sun inside.

“A Cult I said, it’s a Cult”

For something that during my time was seen as a cult, connections to some form of neo-religion, pop-psychology and brain washing, it has not only stood the test of time but become popular and is just now entering the consumerist level.

So do we assume that for something to become popular it must have a bad name, be difficult to spell and pronounce and be related to some cultish movement?
Let’s put it into some perspective, many achievements have started in a similar way; there is a pattern to their success. What appears (and I use this term loosely and with the ambiguity implied) for something to be a success or a great achievement that the start seems at first to be greeted by the masses with absolute scepticism and distrust. Only a handful of people (the early adopters and mavericks) will see something of value to their needs, and they too, will be branded by the masses. “The outcasts have stepped forward!”

Adoption and then wider acceptance to everyday use goes through this cycle of distrust, dislike and scepticism to consideration then adoption by the masses. The minority is now in the camp of dislike, distrust and are sceptical to the value offered.

Nothing to Hero – or were they?

To illustrate this, think in terms of some now famous bands or musicians, like Queen, David Bowie, Madonna, The Spice Girls, go back even as far as Amadeus Mozart. The pattern is similar. I am sure you can think of other examples. Look into business, early adoption was slow with Microsoft’s DoS product and only really became successful after the Windows 95 Launch (windows 3.1 was still successful but not as much as 95). Their original product was not considered to be useful or relevant outside of the business market – International Business Machines ‘IBM’ to whom it was originally made for.

The interesting point here is, at what point does a product, service, technology piece of entertainment etc reach critical mass and become popular? In NLP this is what we look for to change behaviours. In fact this is also what happens when behaviours do change. There is a point where the mass becomes critical and the behaviour switches and changes.

Change is simple – Reach a Threshold

Naturalistic examples of this are when someone who smokes or drinks is finally given a warning by their GP that they will now have some v.serious problem if they continue from this day forward. Or if they are a little too late, some other warning has taken place, heart attack, stroke etc that has now forced them, (the critical mass has been reached) to change.

People talk about Disruptive Technology, that is a technology that disrupts, imbalances the current trend, way of thinking, modus operandi. That this new technology provides a new way forward, to achieve better, greater results, faster with more value than before. That this is not evolution but revolution.

And it is probably from here that the reasons some things are harder to adopt are because they are perceived as revolutionary and not evolutionary.

Organic food is not a new invention – but is percieved to be

Evolutionary trends occur as a natural result of an organic process over time, whereas revolution appears to have just happened in the here and now. What punctuates the two is ‘time’.

The TV was and is still considered to be revolutionary, yet in fact if we take the ‘time’ continuum further back, the TV was a natural by-product of various investigations into the field of electromagnetism over at least 100 years.

The car, the same, over quite some time from our beloved horse and cart to the steam engine to petrol engines. These products evolved through time. The revolutions were the moments of intense creativity where the solution to the problem occurred – only because – other factors, creations were there already that allowed the solution to arrive. The car could not exist without the invention of the wheel, or the understanding of how pressure can drive pistons. Bohemian Rhapsody would not exist without their being classical music. Evolution happens. Revolution is a slice of evolution.

History has a way of making things…un-original

NLP followed the same path. It could not have happened without many of its predecessors work in Systems Thinking, Artificial Intelligence, Transformational Grammar, Behaviourism, Family systems and therapy, Hypnosis etc.

What made it revolutionary was just a change in question – Why to How. Yet it is still an evolution of many different disciplines. And yes, it was and still is a disruptive technology that will remain in the annals of changing the way we think about ourselves and the way we think about how we think.

It is interesting to know at what point does a disruptive technology become or start to become accepted. This is when it starts to move from adolescence to maturity. It is at this stage of maturity we see wider adoption because it has gone and been through the testing process and trials by fire, where its success is the handing of the keys to the later adopters.

It will mature like a good wine: On its own

So with all these years later I still wonder at the changes people get from having spent time on our courses and also the fact that they sometimes like myself mispronounce the name. So it’s not all about whether you can pronounce something or not that will make it a success it’s about understanding whether what you have is a disruptive technology and if so, how will you get it to maturity? What else needs to be there to do this? Who are the early adopters?

Because it’s when we think in terms of ‘when’ rather than ‘if’, that our ideas come alive and take shape.

But to get here, a technology, science, piece of music must go through the iterations of impurity and rawness to arrive at the time when it learns elegance. It is at this point of elegance where maturity is taking place and wider adoption sets in.

This is what we do on our NLP Programmes; we provide a context where the mass effect of learning propels people across the threshold to change and where elegance and mastery come through time. Our programmes are unique, we don’t teach NLP or NLP techniques, we let people learn the artistry of themselves and how to apply these new skills into their lives. NLP is the frame and backdrop to learning something much larger and more elegant.

Leave a comment…

What do YOU think?

Did John Grinder and Judith DeLozier create New Code NLP or did they inadvertantly ‘get this’ as part of their modelling from Milton Erickson?

John and Judith sought to address the ‘imbalance’ of the classic code NLP whereby practitioners were able to create change in others, but were not good messengers themselves – and inherantly the wisdom side was about the systems thinking work of Bateson et al.

Though you never really hear about it, I don’t think that John and Judy created it, I think John and Judy recognised a discrepancy in other practitioners that they had taught and those that had been taught from them – in COMPARISON to a) themsleves b) Milton Erickson.

I am sure that John, Richard and the early developers had already modelled unconsciously the patterns that later ‘came out’ as New Code.

I don’t believe New Code was created, but ‘self-modelled’ albeit much later because it required the time to be processed.

A guess, but I’m sure I’m right on this… knowing John, I do not see this as a ‘oh you know what… lets create a new field and call it NewCode, there’s a few things that need shaping up’…This was a call from their unconscious, they had noticed that patterns that were ‘not in other practitioners’ that they had modelled and used unconsciously.

Thats my take on the story and given what it is I model from people, the model becomes self evident through time.

Rob

The word you use in your emails or on facebook are designed to manipulate our senses and experience to both understand and make meaning of the nominalisations, complex equivalence’s, generalisations and rules that you’ve put together in a sequence intended to ‘get’ people to ‘see’ your point of view.

Manipulation Happens All The Time

You manipulated the words to gather the greatest impact possible without writing a book on it. You were careful in the selection of your words, some you deleted, changed, revoked, re-worded in your head, on screen, chose the full stops, the …’s. You are no different from I or anyone that reads this.

You are selfish by nature, you will brush your hair in a certain way, buy certain clothes, buy a certain style of car, listen to particular music and not others, you will move and act in accordance with your unconscious desires in order to manipulate your environment and circumstances to your best advantage. You will do this with the people you love, the people you like, the people you dislike.

You will choose where to go to walk, whom to look at what to say and how to say it to men and women, you will flirt with both. You will manipulate to get what you need.

You Are At The Centre Of Your Universe

It’s your world, you are the centre of your universe. You like I manipulate because we cannot help it. We cannot control all of our unconscious responses, movements, processes, needs, desires, emotions. We are designed to ‘look after ourselves’.

If you decide to call manipulation, influence or communication, that’s fine, you’re just manipulating yourself so you can feel better consciously about yourself. That’s ok. But it’s still manipulation.

Do you, or I or anyone, consciously, I mean really consciously, truly have any intentions that are so selfless, so giving, so flawless, pure and virtuous that in the moment of need, we consciously choose to act with that pure selfless intent to help another where our lives will be forfeit?

The Selfless Act

I think then, that very few people do, and that is was not a conscious decision and they act out of ‘spur of the moment’ it’s in the words…’I didn’t think about it I just rushed into the burning building and puller her out’…

…Because if this person had really thought about it… he would  still probably be watching the building burn.

The act of moving to help save another is not a conscious decision… all the time… and yet… for those that do, it is because they give their lives in-sake of another and that other is somehow of greater value than their own life.

Like their children for example…and only then would I say they had a positive intention that was not selfish (and I mean selfish in the terms of – intended for self) and in aid of another…but -

I Still Argue The Case

I would still argue, that in even in these dire moments of duress – that they are selfishly motivated to save another because….they could not otherwise live with the consequences of being alive instead of the ‘valued’ other.

Therefore… they are manipulating the environment, themselves and others in order to preserve – the self – their self.

The consequence of letting your (for examples sake) child die instead of yourself as a conscious decision would be too much for your ‘self’ to live with.

If not children, something other than what would be perceived as of more value than the ‘self’.

I put myself in this category too of ‘manipulation’ and everyone too… and I don’t have any negative connotations with the word – it just – is -

TheDifference for Some

The difference I believe is not that we do not manipulate, rather, are our actions intended to help serve another. Do we intend to do good with our actions.

Though even with this, the good, may seem the bad to another. One persons milestone, another’s a seat.

So if NLP is about Manipulation and it helps people overcome difficulties and improves their quality of life. Then I think this is a good thing.

Disagree? then manipulate me to see your point of view

Tell me your thoughts below

Be well

Rob

Losing Weight is no easy task, but then again is anything worthwhile an easy task?

Perhaps another way of saying it is: – is it really about losing weight or living happily with who you already are and what you do?

And yet for some people if this is the case, there is always the argument that their health is at risk from the weight they carry. So losing weight is not an option or choice but a necessity.

There are fads and there are fads and slimming or losing weight isn’t prone to being left alone in this area.

But fads come and go as much as the weight loss and gain. There are some people that swear by the ‘diets’ they’ve been on, the weight they’ve lost and the self esteem they’ve gained as a result.

An ordeal from a meal

There’s no doubt that losing weight for some is more than a goal but an ordeal, and an ordeal that lasts for as much as their life.

It therefore seems sad that so much focus is put into the ‘ideal weight’ – surely it’s not about the weight, but how we look, what we think of ourselves and how we carry ourselves as a person.

And even if this is the case let’s face it, we like to feel liked and feel attracted. It’s natural it’s how we survive as a species, so looking good and feeling great about

yourself shouldn’t be something that you’re ashamed of, it’s more a question of who are you doing it for.

There are many books, diets and hypno-training gastric band super weightloss in an instant products on the market. It’s probably one of the biggest industries and is fueled by our natural desire to feel good, look good and be happy with ourselves. So if this is the case, why do so many people find it so hard to lose the weight?

It’s one of the biggest consumer markets  – however there’s a bigger consumer market and that’s the food we eat.

You wouldn’t be 2 stone heavier without the food and lifestyle of modern times? – well possibly – though we do know that the food we consume makes us how we are. As the saying goes – “you are what ya eat”.

So if that’s the case – maybe we should understand more about ‘what we eat – to know who we are’.

A surprise from the pudding

Now you wouldn’t think of this as a lose weight scheme, but it has great merit for what it sets out to achieve.

You’ve probably come across the ‘keep a food diary’. Ok be honest, how many of us do this and how many of us keep diaries anyhow? – very few. So this type of method is only helpful to those that are good at keeping diaries. If you’re like me – my diary is in my head.

However that’s a good a place to start as any.

What we eat is in our head (well at least the thought what we want to indulge our senses in is) though it starts from a signal from our body, arrives in our head as a message that’s a mix of ‘I’m hungry’ internal dialogue to seeing images of types of food we’d like to satisfy this rumbling and then some sort of sorting process to determine which foods are going to best satisfying the ‘feeling’ need, followed by a look in the cupboards and fridge and so on, until we arrive with the food in front of us ready for consumption.

Ok so it was a quick and general breakdown of the hunger to eating process – and this is where it gets interesting.

Do you choose your foods or do they choose you?

If you’re already adept at eating the foods you like (I assume you are) and you probably know which ones you ‘should/shouldn’t’ eat (if not go to your local GP and get a good food chart – or look in the local book stores for healthy eating foods) then you’re probably unaware of

…..’how you actually choose your foods and eat’…

Now this might sound a little trite and odd, bear with me a moment while I explain.

You see because you’re an ‘adept’ eater – you do it without thinking about it consciously – this is purposful – otherwise you’d spend ALL of your time consciously trying to think of what to eat, how to put it together and then eat it. We’re not designed to do things consciously – only as far as early learning stages and even then this isn’t always the best route method for learning.

Therefore – if what we do is choose our foods unconsciously (you think you have choice – trust me you don’t – it’s an illusion – you’re designed to do things on automatum – to have these programms running in the background that do all of the choosing for you -  this is why it’s so hard for so many people to lose weight because they have to battle with their unconsious desires and years and years, well life time of programming) then we need to interrupt that programming and learn how to re-eat.

Sounds crazy – well to a point – but it does have a point.

Learning to re-eat means learning to know how you do what you do already.

You see most people (I’m assuming you’re one of them (Hhhrrmm) don’t really know what foods they eat that ACTUALLY put the weight on. I bet you’ve never tested it have you? Gone and eaten 60 bars of chocolate to see whether it does actually put weight on – or tried 20 apples a day to see what the effects are.

Why would you? – you want to enjoy your food – however, by the same token you want to lose weight. So which one? Eat the food that puts the weight and feel good in the moment and then bad afterwards or feel good because your losing the weight but bad because you can’t have what you want? – so some of the diets would request of you.

The Big BUT but not that type of BUTT

BUT

and it’s a big BUTT what if you could ‘eat what you wanted and lose the weight you wanted’

Now I’m not even going to GO to any sort of ..

“here’s the new fancy smancy diet super slim instant pill panacea diet” – far from it…

And I don’t even claim to have made this up – so don’t go around saying it’s the new ‘Rob’ Diet… In fact this was from Milton Erickson (father of modern day medical hypnosis) (it’s not the whole story) but the main points are here.

And you can adapt it to suit your needs.

I’ve written this in my own way and what I’d say to a client.

So put yourself in the shoes of the ‘super weight loss coach – coaching you’

 I want you to commit to putting on one stone, yes that’s right one stone i weight and I assume that you are healthy enough to do this and have no doctors orders or specific imminent health issues). I want you to put on one stone, and not an ounce more or less. The minute you hita this 1 extra stone I want you to call me and make an immediate appointment.

She/he then has to tell you everything in absolute detail of what they did, both mentally and physically to put that one stone on. I mean everything!!

Record it and transcribe this and look highly interested and engaged and nod at ‘all’ the right times when she/he becomes ‘engaged, spirited, motivated,’ at what they did.

Then…

Tell her that now she knows ‘exactly and with precision how to gain 1 stone. That she has learnt everything she needs to know about putting weight on. She has learnt everything she now needs to know about her body both consciously and unconcsiouly and about how to do this, and that she will never ever need to read a diet book or see anyone ever again.’

A variation to Milton Erickson’s version”

You see the important distinction here – is to understand (I’m sure you got it anyway) how you ALREADY do what you do but to really understand HOW to put weight on – Not just by reading some books or a fad diet programme.

HOW do YOU put weight on – Do it deliberatly – then you’ll understand the process YOU go through to do this – therefore – this means you know -

HOW TO REVERSE IT.

and never have to worry about what foods you should or shouldn’t eat, because you know. You know intrinsicly which foods, because these foods are the foods and meals you’ve gotton used to eating for years…

Which means you don’t have to go and learn how to cook again or read diet cookbooks – you now understand which foods you eat, how much you eat, when you eat and why you eat with what you already eat – that puts the weight on.

So all you have to do is ‘say it again’

REVERSE IT – eat less of the ones you know that put the weight on and reduce some of them down. Watch when you eat and what you eat to do this.

The No Diet Diet. diet??

Conclusion

You see this isn’t about dieting at all – it’s about changing your patterns and routines but not radically at all – it’s about understanding how you’ve already made a success out of what you do to achieve who and what you already are (whether you like that or not) and then making adjustments to this and keeping all that you do intact.

Change should be easy and not painful or with loss.

Diets are about loss.

No-one likes losing.

So losing weight is a loss.

Therefore – don’t lose weight – enjoy what you eat and really know what you eat that contributes to your happiness.

Your weight will find a new balance that suits who you are.

As always please leave your comments – I’d love to know what you’ve tried and what’s been successful for you.

Rob

The course was really exciting. There was a bit of shift in group dynamics and it was really interesting to see how Rob added in exercises to bring everyone in. I remember having an assistant on my Practitioner course and thinking what it would be like to have their skills, and now having been there I can see it from that different angle.

My life has changed because I’ve been able to move forward with my goals. I now have this clear vision of how I want my future to be and I’m moving in steps to putting into place and making it achievable.

You see how people’s change filters out into their life even only 1/2 way through the course.

There’s a high degree of interest in each individual. Rob is really understanding and getting in deep 2nd position designing the course to really get into each of them to propel them forward.

Personally I’ve learnt how much I’ve actually learnt unconsciously and now have in my behaviour.

Rob as a trainer is all about calibration and calibration calibration he really really seems to get into and understand individuals and is flexible to change his ways to help the learners.

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