They serve us, because we make generalisations about things, truisms that allow us to navigate through the world. I know that if I approach a door that it will open up either towards or away from me. However there are times when I will be fooled by my past and the similar looking door that I know, slides to the left. Here my belief about doors from my past experiences of similar looking things called ‘doors’ did not work in this instance, this is the exception and not the rule.

Our experiences allow us to create generalisations of behaviour that we can use in similar repeatable contexts. It means we do not have to consciously ‘think’ about how to act all the time. We can rely to a degree on our past experience to provide the behaviours we need in our present circumstances; like opening a door, stopping at red lights, turning a tap anti-clockwise to turn it on.

But when our past acts on our present behaviour and does not produce the desirable results we wish, then it is time to try something new.

NLP, (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming) has developed a simple format for changing personal history. For creating a re-edited version of past event/s that provides us with a new way of understanding and viewing that behaviour with the hindsight of time, experience and different points of view.

The difference between this format and trying to change how you act deliberately is in how the process of NLP works. NLP unlike traditional methods of change; works by changing the structure of how we think, how we create our experiences, while leaving the content alone.

In a way it is like changing the colour or contrast of your TV set while still watching your programme. The programme content is still the same but your experience of viewing it is different and thus so to, is your response to it.

Below is the NLP format for changing personal history. Now you too can have the past you always wanted and experience new ways of being in your present and every day of life.

Change Personal History – originally developed by Dr. John Grinder and Dr. Richard Bandler

1. Think of an unpleasant experience/feeling/state that causes the behaviour you do not wish to occur, that you wish to change. (on a scale of 1-10 [10 being the worst] choose a 3 to practice the technique with first).

2. Develop an association (anchor) to the unpleasant state by choosing your right hand and pressing your thumb and forefinger together when the feelings associated to the state are at their peak. Then release your thumb and forefinger and shake yourself about to break the state (make sure you give yourself a good shake and wonder about a bit too until you feel totally back to your normal self)

3. Re-access the unpleasant state by pressing your right hand thumb and forefinger together again and as you do so step onto an imaginary timeline that has your past to your left and your future to your right, with you standing in the present moment.

4. Now go back to an earlier time when you had that same state before by walking back down your timeline and noticing any increases or decreases in intensity of the state or memories that mark the state as the same. Take a mental note of your experience, then intensify the state again and go back to an even earlier memory.

5. Repeat step 2 until you have reached your earliest experience of that state/feeling/ that caused the behaviour.

6. Break your state by shaking yourself about again and come back to the present time.

7. Now find appropriate resources that would have made a significant difference to the quality of the earliest experience. These resources may be such things as, confidence, happiness, self-worth centeredness, looking from an outside perspective in, new-knowledge and experience as an adult, any skills/behaviours that you have now that you did not have then that you can use etc.

8. Anchor the resource you have chosen by using your left-hand thumb and forefinger by fully associating into the resourceful state and pressing these two together when it reaches its peak. Do this as many times as you need to achieve a very good resource state.

9. Now go back to the earliest experience, associate into the memory and fire the resource anchors by pressing your left thumb and forefinger together. And allow this new state to be in place of the old one. If you are not satisfied with the change, break the state and bring come back to the present to find more new resources to add to the experience.

10. When you are fully satisfied and pleased with your new state from that time come forward through time to the present with the new resources in place. Spread the new resource/state you have created by holding the anchors (left hand thumb and forefinger) throughout each of the memories found in step 2.

11. Break your state when you have reached the present time and now remember the past experiences and notice if when you remember them you feel resourceful now.

12. Future pace: Think of a situation where the old state would have occurred before you made the intervention. Step into the future possibility and notice whether the resources have generalised into the future.